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Кінець великого ексодусу? Чому українки залишаються
Три роки після російського вторгнення жінки в Україні дедалі рідше тікають з країни — і дедалі частіше свідомо залишаються. Це вже не рішення зі страху, а вибір через переконання. Що змушує жінок залишатися? Що зупиняє тих, хто виїхав, від повернення? І чому саме вони, — а не політики чи аналітики, — сьогодні визначають майбутнє України?
Жінка несе дитину подалі від будинку, в який влучила російська ракета. Харків, 2023. Фото: Andrii Marienko/Associated Press/East News
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Коли у лютому 2022 року почалася війна, ніхто не вагався: треба було втікати. Потяги, автобуси, машини — мільйони жінок з дітьми залишали країну, чоловіків, домівки, своє життя. За кілька місяців з України виїхало понад 7 мільйонів людей — переважно до сусідніх країн та ЄС. Це була найбільша криза біженців у Європі з часів Другої світової війни. І перша, коли майже всі, хто тікав, були жінками та дітьми.
У перший місяць війни близько 90% біженців становили жінки й діти. Чоловіки віком від 18 до 60 років не могли виїжджати через мобілізацію. Три роки потому пропорції залишаються схожими: жінки й дівчата — це близько 63% біженців. У країнах ЄС дорослі жінки складають у середньому 46%, а діти — ще 33%.
Приклад Німеччини багато про що говорить: з понад мільйона українських біженців 80% дорослих — жінки, і більшість з них має вищу освіту. Саме вони сьогодні — опора повсякденного життя на чужині: одночасно опікунки, годувальниці й особи, які приймають рішення.
Залишаюсь не тому, що мушу
Всупереч стереотипам, більшість жінок в Україні залишається не через відсутність вибору. Згідно з даними початку 2025 року, 80% жінок віком 18-60 років свідомо обирають життя в Україні. Не «бо нема куди йти», а «бо це моя країна». Аж 90% опитаних жінок відповіли: «Це моя земля, і я хочу тут жити».
Це не просто слова. Це рішення, засновані на зв’язках, ідентичності, почутті спільноти. Попри тривалу війну, попри складну економічну ситуацію, для багатьох жінок вибір очевидний: навіть якщо буде важче — я залишаюсь.
Близько 20% жінок розглядають виїзд. Найчастіше це молоді самотні жінки, які втратили роботу і не бачать можливостей для покращення. Багато з них вже виїжджали і поверталися — вони більш відкриті до міграції, але й більш розчаровані. Навіть у цій групі виїзд, — скоріше, гіпотетична можливість, ніж конкретний план. Здебільшого їх тримають родинні зв’язки, брак коштів, відповідальність за близьких.
«З тих 20%, що хочуть виїхати, дві третини або не мають коштів, або їх тримає вагома причина — хворий родич, могила близької людини, зниклий чоловік», — розповідають дослідники Володимир Вахітов та Наталія Заїка з Інституту поведінкових досліджень American University Kyiv у розмові з NV.ua.
Рішення про виїзд уже рідше пов’язані з панікою чи безпосередньою загрозою. Все частіше — це роздуми про довгострокове майбутнє: чи знайду роботу? Чи буде в дитини щасливе дитинство? Чи країна зможе стати на ноги? «Я їду, бо не бачу майбутнього через п’ять років» — це тепер найпоширеніша фраза серед жінок, які вагаються
Ті ж, що залишаються, кажуть: «Навіть якщо буде важче — не поїду». У їхніх словах переважає відповідальність — за родину, за громаду, за країну. Це рішення від серця, а не лише холодний розрахунок.
Що нас зупиняє
Для багатьох жінок повернення — навіть складніше, ніж рішення залишитися. Найменш схильні до репатріації матері малих дітей — жінки 30–39 років. Лише 6% з них повернулися, що вп’ятеро менше, ніж у інших вікових груп.
Головна перешкода? Відчуття небезпеки. «Якщо діти не матимуть тут нормального дитинства — ми не повернемось», — лунає в десятках інтерв’ю.
До цього додається житлова нестабільність: відсутність захисту орендарів, зростання цін, договори без гарантій. «Доки ринок нерухомості не стане цивілізованішим, люди не вертатимуться. Це не лише бар’єр для повернення, але й для рішення завести дитину».
Ситуацію ускладнює спотворене сприйняття реальності. Україна із Заходу видається зоною постійної небезпеки, навіть якщо точково там все відносно спокійно. А Захід з України — навпаки, — виглядає чужим, холодним і дорогим місцем. Дослідники називають це «ефектом дзеркальної загрози» — ми боїмося того, чого не знаємо.
Повернутися — це більше, ніж просто приїхати
І все ж чимало жінок повертається. Не лише через потребу, а з переконанням, що саме в Україні їхнє життя набуває сенсу. Їх вабить можливість працювати за фахом, гнучкіший ринок, відсутність конкуренції в окремих галузях.
«В Україні легше знайти роботу за спеціальністю, навіть якщо диплом не визнають за кордоном. А брак конкуренції у багатьох сферах відкриває жінкам нові шляхи», — пояснюють дослідники.
Але найважливіші — невидимі фактори: рідна мова, спільна пам’ять, спосіб виховання дітей. «Я знаю, що тут моя дитина зрозуміє, хто вона,» — одне з найглибших речень у дослідженні
Для багатьох українок вибір «залишитися» чи «повернутися» — це не просто рішення про місце проживання. Це рішення про сенс.
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Every fourth country in the world has experienced regression in the field of women's rights, according to the latest UN Women 2024 report, and in the European Union, about 50 million women continue to experience high levels of sexual and physical violence - both at home and at work, as well as in public spaces.
We speak with Doctor of Sociology, Professor at the University of Warsaw, Elżbieta Korolczuk, about the situation of women's rights in the world, Poland and Ukraine, as well as about what should be done to protect and support women's rights, which are once again under threat.
The Influence of the Church
Olga Pakosh: Professor, what does the regression of women's rights mean?
Elżbieta Korolczuk: It means that in many countries, the process of equalising opportunities has stalled, and in some, the situation regarding existing rights has even worsened.
Of course, it has never been the case that all participants in public life, even in liberal countries, accepted gender equality
There have always been groups opposing women's rights - reproductive rights, the right to abortion, contraception or women's equality in political life.
But in democratic countries, there was a general consensus that we should strive for the full participation of women in social and political life. Groups opposing this remained on the margins of public life. Today, anti-gender views are moving to the centre of public discussion and - depending on the country - take various forms.
For example, in Afghanistan, where in different periods of the twentieth century laws were introduced to improve the situation of women, today women have no rights whatsoever. Fundamentalists have ensured that women cannot work, leave the house alone or study. They cannot participate in public or political life, and most of them also experience violence - there is data showing that this may concern up to 85 per cent of Afghan women.
Meanwhile, in the United States, where for many years the political mainstream shared the belief that women's rights were an obvious part of democracy, there is now an assault on both democracy and women's rights. Both are connected to the development of anti-gender and conservative movements, which often resonate with organised religions, such as Christianity and Islam, as well as Orthodox Judaism, which has also never been a friend to women.
- And what about Poland? It has been almost two years since the change of government. Why, despite previous promises, has no action been taken to at least partially regulate the issue of abortion?
- Firstly, because the current political class - and this applies not only to Poland but also to many other countries - is significantly more conservative than the majority of society. Secondly, the issue of women's rights and minority rights remains under the strong influence of religious institutions.
In Poland, we are observing a distinct cultural conflict: the country is rapidly secularising - the younger generation is moving away from institutional religion, and often from faith altogether. At the same time, a significant portion of voters, predominantly older people, remains deeply religious. The Church as a political institution still plays an enormous role, both at the national level and locally. Bishops often effectively participate in local political life. The economic power of the Church also carries great weight - it remains one of the largest property owners in the country.
- Could a change of president influence anything?
- Can we trust politicians? This is a question many people are asking themselves today. Promises were already made two years ago, during the parliamentary elections. However, as research shows, a significant portion of young women who voted for the current coalition in 2023 now feels disappointed and disillusioned. During the campaign, mobilisation efforts were directed specifically at them, notably through promises regarding reproductive rights, financial support concerning issues related to abortion, equality for the LGBT community and so on. At present, these promises remain unfulfilled. What will change after the presidential elections - we shall see.
I fear we are dealing with the ignoring of female voters: at first, something is promised to them to secure their votes, and later, the promises are not fulfilled
Such a strategy not only alienates specific groups of voters but also generally undermines trust in democracy as a political system. The question is to what extent the politicians themselves realise this and whether they understand the long-term consequences of such actions.
As a sociologist, I do not have excessive expectations. However, as a citizen, I hope that the ruling parties will eventually awaken and that the change of president will lead at least to the resolution of such basic issues as the abortion ban or inequality in LGBT rights.
In Poland, a victim is not obliged to prove that she said «no» to the rapist
- What is the current situation regarding women's rights in Ukraine?
- War, like any crisis, always negatively affects society. On the one hand, of course, it affects men, as they predominantly die at the frontline or bear other severe consequences related to military service. On the other hand, the burden of daily survival falls squarely on the shoulders of women. This concerns not only professional work but also activities connected with maintaining the lives of families, communities and the general everyday functioning of people. Moreover, many women serve in the Ukrainian army, carrying, in essence, a double burden.
A Ukrainian woman among the rubble of a house after Russian shelling in Mykolaiv, August 2nd 2022. Photo: Kostiantyn Liberov/AP/Associated Press/East News
War also means the suspension of normal political struggle, which likewise complicates the ability of minorities to defend their rights. Individual rights, as well as the rights of particular groups, are pushed into the background in the face of the harsh reality of resisting Russian aggression.
Nevertheless, it is noticeable that politically, Ukraine is striving for integration with Europe, and this opens opportunities for the implementation of equal rights solutions. For example, one can compare Ukraine and Georgia - two post-Soviet states that started from similar positions. Ukraine resolutely chose the path of European integration, which, incidentally, became one of the factors of the military conflict, and in this context, adopted many decisions, such as the ratification of the Istanbul Convention and the protection of the rights of women and minorities. Georgia, by contrast, has moved in the opposite direction. It has drawn closer to Russia - notably through religious issues, restrictions on the activities of non-governmental organisations and the strengthened influence of the Orthodox Church.
The Georgian government is moving towards restricting the rights of minorities, particularly LGBT people, which is part of a broader process of narrowing the rights of civil society and the space for grassroots movements. This indicates that we are dealing not only with ideological or cultural differences, the attitude towards equality is also an element of the geopolitical choice made by states. It was the same in the case of Poland and other countries that joined the EU - this process was linked to the acceptance of at least some obligations in the field of equality. And this undoubtedly matters for the specific decisions taken by the state, although the results do not always meet expectations.
During a protest in Tbilisi, April 18th 2024. Photo: VANO SHLAMOV/AFP/East News
- What laws or legal mechanisms are lacking in Ukraine to support women's rights? Is the problem solely due to the crisis caused by the war?
- I am not a specialist in Ukrainian affairs - it is worth asking Ukrainian women themselves about this. However, I think the situation is complicated. On the one hand, it is worth asking: how open are state institutions to the voices of minorities, including women? How much do they actually represent groups that are in a vulnerable position in society?
On the other hand, the problem also lies in the way existing norms are implemented. For example, when it comes to protection from violence, one of the most fundamental issues. If such protection does not exist, it is clear that female citizens do not have equal rights.
If they are not protected in their own home or on the street, there is no point in talking about equal opportunities in politics or other fields
And here the question arises: is a state that is undergoing such a deep crisis - military, economic, infrastructural - capable of effectively guaranteeing women the protection from violence? I believe we must demand this, but at the same time, we should understand that it is an extremely difficult task.
- And what about Poland? Is Polish legislation effective in the context of protecting women?
- Yes, in many areas there are quite good legal standards, but often they are not properly implemented. An example can be the changes introduced in February this year - regarding the definition of rape.
According to the new provisions, rape is any violation of sexual boundaries without clear consent. That is, theoretically, now the victim is not obliged to prove that she said «no» - instead, the perpetrator must prove that he obtained consent
At the same time, we do not have any large-scale information campaign on this matter. Most people do not even know that anything has changed. There are no relevant educational programmes. There are not enough training sessions for the police and prosecutors that would allow for the effective implementation of the new standards.
Such matters should be on the front pages of newspapers
«I can't believe we still have to protest this shit». Protest in the USA. Photo: Shutterstock
«Women's rights are not given once and for all»
- The United States was once an example in the fight for women's rights and the implementation of these rights. What about now? Are the suffragettes turning in their graves?
- I hope that the United States will become not only an example of how what seemed to have been achieved can be destroyed, but also teach us how to truly maintain it. It is worth emphasising that, compared to Poland, Ukraine and most Eastern European countries, women's rights in the USA were guaranteed quite late, at a time when most women in Eastern Europe were already working and had a certain degree of financial independence.
In Poland, women gained the right to abortion in 1953, while in the USA, the federal right to terminate a pregnancy was introduced only in the mid-1970s.
Although in the early 1960s and 1970s women were fighting for access to legal abortions, over the last five decades, the USA has created the image of a country where the rights of minorities and women are highly developed
However, this struggle for equality was always tense, and opponents of equal rights never stood aside.
Today, the main difference is that part of the political elite has become extremely conservative, and the system of rights protection at the federal level is beginning to collapse. This particularly concerns decisions of the Supreme Court, which has overturned provisions that guaranteed the right to abortion at the federal level, notably the ruling in Roe v. Wade.
These changes show how important it is to constantly monitor adherence to the principles of equality. Women's rights are not given once and for all. This also demonstrates the link between the rights of women and minorities and democracy.
On the one hand, in undemocratic countries, the erosion of women's rights is very clearly visible, as women are usually the first group to lose their rights. When a rigid power hierarchy is created, women generally end up at the bottom.
On the other hand, criticism of women's rights is often used as a pretext for attacks on democratic values and institutions. Attacks on gender equality today are a tool in the hands of anti-democratic movements, which mobilise society by stirring up fear and convincing people that both gender equality and democracy itself have gone too far. An example is Trump's campaign against Kamala Harris, who was portrayed as a spokesperson for the transgender community, and topics related to funding gender reassignment surgeries in prisons were used to mobilise voters and at the same time to ridicule liberal democracy.
The strategy of right-wing populists is to ridicule the topics of equality, portraying them as absurd and as a threat to women themselves, while at the same time inciting society against democracy as such
Demonstration in support of women's rights in Afghanistan, London, March 8th 2024. Photo: HENRY NICHOLLS/AFP/East News
- What can we, ordinary women, now do in Poland and Ukraine to protect our rights?
- The answer has already been given to us by the suffragettes: no one will grant us rights for free, we must fight for them. And once we have gained them, we must defend them.
It is a bit like marriage. Usually, if we take on all the obligations but do not demand what is ours, the other side will not help and will not voluntarily grant us our rights
The same applies to political life.
It is about voting, supporting organisations that help women, as well as those who take it to the streets - people who mobilise. It is about supporting specific women who act for others. Even if we ourselves are not ready to engage, we can support them. It is about supporting specific female politicians, as well as holding them accountable. It is about checking what they are doing, on what basis, and expressing our opinion. This is something we must never renounce. Whether on Facebook, in public discussions or at the workplace.
We still live in a good place where our voice has weight
We are not in Afghanistan - we are in a place where we have a voice, and we can use it.
We must make an effort, get used to the fact that political activity is simply part of our lives, not a marginal thing that appears only, for example, during elections, or does not appear at all. Because then we voluntarily give up the possibility of changing the world.
There are women who oppose the right to abortion. Of course, they have the right to do so. But unfortunately, they act neither in their own interest nor in the interest of their sisters, friends, or daughters. No one is forcing anyone to have an abortion. But in a world where women are forbidden to do so, it is ordinary women who will pay for this ban with their lives, health, and mental well-being. And we simply should not agree to such a world.
Over the past week, former President Donald Trump has mentioned various figures regarding the military aid the United States has provided to Ukraine over three years of war. He has cited amounts such as $500 billion and $350 billion.
According to estimates by the "Economists for Ukraine" group, the military aid transferred by the U.S. to Ukraine amounts to $18.3 billion. An additional $32.6 billion represents direct budgetary support in the form of reimbursements, which was distributed, among other means, through the World Bank. Meanwhile, the U.S. government has assessed the total volume of its military aid to Ukraine at $65.9 billion.
— We analyzed a vast amount of publicly available data and identified the reasons for discrepancies in the reported figures, — explains Anastassia Fedyk. — When considering only military aid, our experts assessed all the equipment and technology Ukraine was set to receive, taking into account their condition, age, and usability. It makes a significant difference whether equipment was newly manufactured by American companies last year or if it had been out of use for over a decade and was marked for decommissioning. Evaluating all such equipment at the same value is incorrect.
"In 2024, the total amount of military aid to Ukraine constituted 0.25% of the U.S. annual federal budget" — Anastassia Fedyk
For instance, while the U.S. Department of Defense reports that it has transferred $31 billion worth of weapons and ammunition to Ukraine (under the Presidential Drawdown Authority, which allows the U.S. president to provide military aid from Pentagon stockpiles without congressional approval), the majority of this equipment was outdated and no longer in use by the U.S. Armed Forces. According to expert estimates, the actual value of this aid is around $12.5 billion.
Another crucial aspect to consider when calculating expenses is how much the United States has gained in profit or other benefits by providing aid to Ukraine.
— We plan to analyze this aspect in detail in our next study and evaluate the specific economic benefits the U.S. has gained from military and financial support to Ukraine. This includes increased profits for the defense industry and new contracts for American companies, — notes Anastassia Fedyk.
Scholars from the University of California, Berkeley, the Stockholm School of Economics, Minerva University, and the AI for Good Foundation worked on the report for approximately two months. "The main goal of this study is to prevent disinformation and the spread of false data regarding U.S. aid to Ukraine. It also aims to demonstrate, using concrete figures, that European countries and the United Kingdom have provided Ukraine with equipment, weapons, and other types of aid in proportions comparable to the U.S. contribution," Fedyk explains. Notably, the European Union estimates the total volume of its financial, military, and humanitarian assistance at $145 billion, while the United Kingdom has provided nearly $16 billion.
Why, then, does former U.S. President Donald Trump exaggerate the aid figures so drastically? According to Anastassia Fedyk, this may be an attempt to negotiate more favorable terms in upcoming resource agreements or a strategy to discredit the previous administration by portraying its policies as unprofessional and wasteful. Specifically, Trump may be trying to create the impression that his predecessors neglected American citizens while allegedly spending "enormous" amounts to support Ukraine, which is suffering from the war with Russia.
— That is why it was important for us to present accurate data — specific amounts, figures, and facts — to show the real state of affairs. We wanted to prove that American citizens were not deprived of access to social or government services due to aid to Ukraine, explains Anastassia Fedyk.
On the contrary, many people gained jobs, and companies involved in the production and supply of aid expanded their manufacturing capacities and contributed to budget revenues
In her opinion, the results of this analysis will also be useful for Ukraine, as they will allow for negotiations on equal terms, provide a better understanding of the real value of the aid received, and prevent manipulations regarding its scale.
The researchers from "Economists for Ukraine" also analyzed allegations of corruption and possible embezzlement of funds coming from the U.S.
They found that the level of corruption associated with the use of American aid is among the lowest compared to all other countries that have received support from the United States
— Accusations of corruption can harm Ukraine’s reputation as an aid recipient. However, thorough audits indicate that Ukraine has handled the provided funds responsibly. Moreover, budgetary assistance was granted in the form of expense reimbursements based on receipts. This should be emphasized to prevent the formation of a negative image, which some try to impose, notes Professor Fedyk.
In her view, American citizens' attitudes toward Ukraine have not deteriorated, but many still do not fully understand the actual scale of aid provided to Ukraine. Americans continue to support Ukraine and consider their assistance important and beneficial. Therefore, it is crucial to spread truthful information to avoid misunderstandings, even when high-ranking officials fuel such misunderstandings.
Economists for Ukraine is a non-partisan economic think-tank, part of the AI for Good Foundation, a US 501(c)(3) Public Charity whose mission is to promote economic and community resilience. The Economists for Ukraine network includes more than 400 economists representing the world’s leading academic, scientific, and economic institutions.
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